Is your sex life grand or bland? Try these tips for a more fulfilling experience
Day 1
Sure, long and slow is lovely, but there’s something to be said for the five-minute romp. When time is scarce, shoot for an unusual location, like the shower or kitchen, and you may find yourself more turned on than usual.
Day 2
Obesity can alter your hormonal balance, possibly dampening desire. And clogged arteries contribute to conditions like erectile dysfunction.
Arteries clogged with saturated fat don't bring as much blood to the genital area for arousal purposes. Hence the correlation between heart disease and erectile dysfunction.
But excess weight also messes with your hormones. "Obesity can shift the balance between estrogen and testosterone," says Michael Krychman, MD, executive director of the Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine in Newport Beach, Calif. And low testosterone can bring down your sex drive.
Nutrition counts too. For example, an iron deficiency can lead to fatigue, which in turn can lead to low libido. (Eat your broccoli!)
Day 3
Run with it
Cardiovascular activity—whether it’s a jog or an aerobics class—increases circulation, and therefore blood flow to the genitals, making sex more pleasurable for you and your mate.
1. Get plenty of exercise
If you want to be "hot-blooded," then improve your circulation. Physical fitness can increase blood flow, which in theory can make sex more pleasurable since sexual arousal for both men and women involves increased blood flow to the genital area. And that can increase desire itself—if it feels great, you tend to want to do it more.
Exercise boosts endorphins, which lift your mood, and it can increase your energy. Not to mention that being toned makes some people feel sexier.
Day 4
Phone it in
Traveling for work? Phone sex is a great way to keep things steamy, even if you’re miles apart.
Sure, it sounds NC-17, but phone sex can be a great way for couples to bond when apart. You don’t need to turn into a phone-sex operator. Your man just wants to feel connected to you like he does when you’re actually in bed.
First, dim the lights and slip into something sexy. Start by telling your husband what you’re wearing, where you are, etc. Talk about the last time you had sex or what you would be doing to him if you were home. If the goal is an orgasm, describe what you’re doing to yourself, and ask him to do the same. Just relax and have fun!
Day 5
Stay fun
If you’re trying to get pregnant, it’s easy to forget that sex wasn’t always so much work. Doing everything but—giving a massage, focusing on touch—can help make it fun again.
When sex becomes more about peeing on sticks than pleasure, try these tricks.
Forget your cycle. That
magic window of ovulation can also be a desire-stifling trap. Remember, your sex drive isn’t completely linked to your egg release, so don’t cut off the action when your fertility ebbs. Having sex when you want to all month long will take some of the pressure off.
Do everything but. Give each other a massage, and have intimate contact beyond the bedroom. Long, strong hugs daily will make a difference.
Embrace your imagination. Fantasizing about someone else isn’t a form of cheating. If it spices things up—and it usuallydoes—it’s perfectly OK.
Day 6
Relax
Overworked, exhausted—and that’s before you leave the house in the morning. Setting aside just a little bit of relaxation time with your partner can bring back the fireworks.
"How about a simple vacation? How about communicating with your partner?" suggests Irwin Goldstein, MD, director of San Diego Sexual Medicine and editor in chief of The Journal of Sexual Medicine. "People are overworked and stressed, and they translate their overworked, stressed lives to a lousy sex life."
Day 7
Ditch routine
What do a towel, phone messages, and a fantasy jar have in common? They can all help you spice up an otherwise lackluster love life.
Day 8
Understand your orgasm
Find out the different ways you and your partner can climax, and why the G-spot may be hot—or not.
An orgasm is a rush of pleasure that usually comes from contractions of the muscles in the vagina, anus, and abdomen. It can feel like light pops, waves, vibrations, an explosion, or anything in between.
During an orgasm, several areas in your brain are active, leading to the release of the hormones serotonin and oxytocin. Experts believe this could lead to a boost in happiness, bonding with your partner, or a reduction in stress.
Orgasm intensity varies from time to time and from person to person. Hormones may play a role, sexologists say. Some women report feeling more desire at certain points in their cycle, which could make an especially satisfying orgasm more likely.
The difference between clitoral and vaginal orgasms is where you are being stimulated. These orgasms may feel very different to some women—fuller and deeper during intercourse, say, but more focused on your genitals if you masturbate by touching your clitoris. But experts say what’s going on in your body is about the same. It’s all caused by clitoral stimulation.
“Though the tip is usually the most sensitive part by far, research shows that most of the clitoris is erectile tissue inside a woman’s body,” explains sex educator Dorian Solot. “So when internal stimulation feels good, it’s the nerves and erectile tissue of the clitoris that are being stimulated. Now that we understand this, we realize there’s really only one kind of orgasm.” (A man, by the way, can have an orgasm if his penis or his prostate is stimulated. The sensation is usually, but not always, strongest in the genital area. “Men are more similar that way than women,” says sex researcher Beverly Whipple, PhD, professor emerita at Rutgers University.)
The G-spot may be a hot spot—or not. Also known as the urethral sponge, the G-spot is an area about 2 inches inside the vagina toward the belly side. It wraps around the urethra, swelling with fluid during arousal. If sufficiently stimulated, it can be felt through the vaginal wall. But it doesn’t always feel good. (The G-spot got its name from American gynecologist Ernst Grafenberg.)
Multiple orgasms are two or more in a row before a woman returns to her pre-orgasmic state. But each one has its own buildup, Solot says. “It’s not the same as one big orgasm with a bunch of after-shocks.” Plenty of women say they’re blissfully satisfied with a single good one. Others may find that they’re too sensitive to have more than one in a short period.
(By Kara Jesella:: sources: www.health.com)
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